MUST YOU GIVE "AKONHOMA" IN MARRIAGE?WILL YOU SURVIVE NEXT 10 YEARS IN MARRIAGE?
Financial Management in Marriage
This is undoubtedly one of the big problems in marriages. The Bible gives a clue as to how finances should be managed in marriage though not deep. Let me stress here that there is no biblical bases for the word "AKONHOMA" in the Ghanaian parlance meaning money the man must daily give in the home whether the woman works or not, the man must provide daily while the wife uses her income for what she deems fit. If it happens that the woman is a good christian, then she might give a little to support the home. The word of God in Gen.2:25b states that "...And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed". In the marriage, there must be transparency in all our dealings which includes our financial life, our bank account details, your gross and net salary or income etc. Nakedness by extension in Gen 2:25 means transparency in all things.
This is undoubtedly one of the big problems in marriages. The Bible gives a clue as to how finances should be managed in marriage though not deep. Let me stress here that there is no biblical bases for the word "AKONHOMA" in the Ghanaian parlance meaning money the man must daily give in the home whether the woman works or not, the man must provide daily while the wife uses her income for what she deems fit. If it happens that the woman is a good christian, then she might give a little to support the home. The word of God in Gen.2:25b states that "...And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed". In the marriage, there must be transparency in all our dealings which includes our financial life, our bank account details, your gross and net salary or income etc. Nakedness by extension in Gen 2:25 means transparency in all things.
If partners are financially opened to each other, they can make prudent plans concerning their finances which really takes financial stress away from the man or the woman or both. That primitive financial management scheme must be taken out. If both partners work, the money is called "OUR" money not "MY" money. It belongs to us hence, we must bring it together and make plans for the home, children, rent etc. In this case, whether the woman gets a higher income than the man or vice versa, it is insignificant. It makes the relationship healthy. The wife however must give the respect to the husband as the head of the family. The man should also not be a bully but a prudent and God fearing manager of these resources. The couples must sit to make decisions about their finances. Even gifts of money from parents, friends even extra income from work must be made known to the other partner. Secrecy in marriage kills the marriage slowly. Trust is however lost.
Depending on the net income that comes to the home, we must plan accordingly. Never depend on loans to survive. Use what you have not what you dont have. Manage what you have. Don't allow the standard of living of other couples to influence your standard of living. Example, you dont buy dresses when you have a few and have nothing to eat. It surprises me to see that, the rich rather wears few dresses meaning they have a few but the poor will rather prefer to buy alot of dresses to proof a point and live rich while they go hungry and look for financial support to survive.That is rather a foolish decision. The liitle wears you have, keep them neat and wear, it is best than wearing expensive dresses but hungry.
Are you managing your finances well? Are you been transparent in with your finances? 10years from now do you see an improvement or a collapse of your marriage because of your finances?
Extract from WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO YOUR MARRIAGE IN THE NEXT 10 YEARS
BY APOSTLE ELIKEM JOSHUA AVOTRI
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