WILL YOUR MARRIAGE SURVIVE MENOPAUSE?

Your marriage might not survive menopause if you see these signs and dont work on it

AN EXTRACT FROM "WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO YOUR MARRIAGE IN THE NEXT 10 YEARS 

 The Couple Stops Dreaming Together.

When a couple is dating they have lots of dreams together. They discuss their future. They dream about where they will live and travel. They dream about family and adventure. It’s an energy which fuels the relationship. When it stops, the fuel it brought stops.
Most times, we get so distracted with life stuff like the kids, work, paying the bills, rent etc. It becomes all we have to talk about anymore. Those things we once dreamt about are replaced with current demands. This is natural, but it can de-fuel a marriage.When is the last time you spent time talking about the future as a couple? When was the last time you took some time off just to go on a marriage vacation to tourist sites? What happened to all you said concerning your future before you got married? What is going to happen t your marriage in the next 10YEARS? Arise!!!

Poor sexual lives

Sex is one of the key things in marriage that must never be underestimated. It is what ties the soul of the couples together. It is not a sin inside marriage.When your sexual lives are coming down or no more interesting, it is a sign that your marriage is gradually deteriorating. Make a frantic decision to work on it before it works on you. Most marriages are suffering from unfaithfulness because the partners are not getting sex or sexual satisfaction.Can you imagine that a couple can stay for two months without sex not even a kiss. Disaster!! Even a week or two is disastrous. Others don't also make sex interesting.It becomes one way with no appetite. When the desire for sex always comes from one side it becomes boring. Other aggressively interesting and demonic men and women are waiting to lay ambush on what you are rejecting, your partner. Any partner that denies or starve the partner of sex is equal to a murderer. Never use sex as a punishment for your partner. You might think you are doing harm to your partner by denying him or her of sex but the truth is happy and making his plans. He came to steal, kill and destroy. Many couples are staying together but cannot look their partners in the eye passionately because what bonds them together is no more practiced. Some couples even see their partners as strangers and enjoy the company of others outside though not necessarily to have sex. Kiss your partner almost every day. Hug daily. When was the last time you passionately told your partner, "I LOVE YOU"? Are you at fault? Wake up to reality

 BOREDOM.


I’ve long said this is one of the leading causes of marriages unraveling. Couples quit dating, quit laughing, quit having fun together. They get caught in the routines and busyness of life. Boredom sets in and the closeness they once shared begins to drift. The enemy loves this and suddenly one or both spouses seek excitement elsewhere. Dangerous.

Do you remember when you once couldn’t wait to see your spouse again? You were newly involved and they were the first person you thought about in the morning and the last person at night? What was it about them which captured your attention about them? Chances are it’s still there but you simply haven’t noticed in a while.When is the last time you belly laughed with your spouse? When was the last time you remember the marriage being “fun”?

8. The Couple Lives Separate Agenda.

It’s OK to have separate identities. It’s OK to have separate interests. I would even encourage it. It keeps things interesting. But, it’s not OK to have separate agenda. The agenda of a marriage should be one. When this is not happening, the strength of the marriage will slowly or quickly fade.  How can couples begin to build separate houses ? That is separation in disguise. Very soon when they are left alone, because they didnt work on their marriage, to joy no more exist therefore they are not divorce by law but separated. Each staying in their own houses or even in their family house. That looks like the end of that marriage. Is it time to get back on the same page with each other? We have found sometimes (many times) we need to set aside time just the two of us to reconnect and get realigned with where we are as a couple and where we are going.

I pray that as the year comes to an end today, we shall all work on our marriages, commit to our marriages and re-confess our love for each other. I pray that the Lord pours fresh fire on all marriages. In this year 2019, the childless shall give birth, the poor shall be rich, the jobless shall be with a lucrative job, the sick are healed in the name of Jesus Christ. I command all plans of the enemy to cause confusion to burn by fire in the name Jesus Christ. Amen
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BY APOSTLE ELIKEM JOSHUA AVOTRI
OVERSEER, LOVEFIELDS CHRISTIAN CHAPEL, AHINSAN-KUMASI, GHANA